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    August 04, 2007

    Top 10 reasons I'm still using Firefox instead of Safari

    With Apple's recent release of the Safari 3 beta, I decided to spend a week with Safari and see if I could make the switch. As much as I love Firefox, there some great, elegant touches in Safari that I miss from time to time. Plus, you can easily sync your Safari bookmarks with the iPhone, another nice incentive.

    The result? Safari 3 is a really good browser. It is super-fast in my experience and a pleasure to use. There are definitely some bugs that cause a few sites to crash the browser, but I assume the final version released in October with Leopard will address those. Nevertheless, after a week, I'm back to Firefox. Here's why:

    10. After all these years, simple web features such as the TypePad HTML toolbar still don't work in Safari due to JavaScript issues.

    9. Safari only allows you to pick software on your hard drive to manage RSS feeds, whereas Firefox allows you to choose Google Reader and other web-based tools.

    8. Google Docs doesn't officially support Safari and it shows.

    7. In Firefox's preferences, you can turn on the ability to start searching the page as soon as you start typing (and you're not in a form field). It not only saves a keystroke, but it's really fast and gets you want you want immediately. Safari's new Find is a big improvement, but still not as dead simple.

    6. Firefox offers easy bookmark syncing between different computers through Foxmarks or Google Browser Sync. Apple wants you to subscribe to .Mac for the same ability.

    5. You can block nearly every ad in the world with Adblock and the Filterset.G Update (thanks, Brad!). By default, Safari blocks no ads on pages and doesn't even consistently block all pop-ups. Sites that were usable in Firefox are nothing more than living, moving billboards in Safari.

    4. The del.icio.us Firefox extension that allows you to add bookmarks directly to del.icio.us from the browser is sweet.

    3. The outstanding Google chat option in Gmail isn't available in Safari. It would nice if Google would make that clear as it can take a long time to figure out why you don't have the "Standard with Chat" option in Gmail on Safari.

    2. Firefox has great session restore, so if the browser does crash or get closed suddenly, you can often get right back to where you were.

    1. If you work with the web for a living, there are many Firefox extensions that are essential, especially Web Developer and Firebug. Other favorites include MeasureIt, ColorZilla and QuickProxy.

    There are hundreds more terrific extensions that can make Firefox do just about anything you want and nearly all work on both Macs and PC's. If your primary browser is still Safari or IE7, Firefox is worth a try.

    April 07, 2007

    10 Best Shows for Families

    We love to watch television as a family. Though we greatly limit Ben's screen time (television, computer, Wii) and Lori and I watch The Office and little else, we do have fun sitting on the couch together and sharing a show. Through the beauty of TiVo, we can grab all those episodes that are buried at 2am, meaning we always have a collection of quality options to choose from.

    Top 10 Shows for Families

    Little Bear (Age 3-5)
    One of our favorite shows of all time and the perfect first show for a young child. Incredibly sweet, lovely music, and filled with imagination and kindness.

    Anatole (Age 4-6)
    A somewhat obscure cartoon about a mouse family living in Paris. Entertaining, intellectual, and infused with an odd appreciation for culture considering it's a show about mice.

    Jimmy Neutron (Age 6+)
    We saw the movie when Ben was 7 and have enjoyed it ever since. We laugh almost as much as Ben and he loves the technology theme.

    SpongeBob SquarePants (Age 6+)
    Hilarious show that often reminds me of Monty Python. It seems that every child in America watches this, so I don't have much to add. My only perspective is that I would try to save it until they're a little older. Every age finds it funny, but it's a very loud show that I think is better for school-aged kids.

    Leave it to Beaver (Age 7+)
    One of the best shows to watch with the whole family. The quality of the writing, acting, and story-lines is very strong and there are endless, basic lessons about life, growing up, and respect for parents. It's unfortunate that the show is assumed to be simplistic and written off as irrelevant to today. In the few cases where it is clearly dated, it's a great opportunity to talk about how and why things have changed.

    Green Acres (Age 7+)
    I know this is a funny choice, but we started watching Green Acres about two years ago and loved it. Just pure fun in a vaudeville way with running gags, misunderstandings, and a talking pig.

    Andy Griffith (Age 7+)
    The humor and sense of values is the main draw, but my favorite part of the show is its perspective. Andy never loses sight of what's important, he treats everyone fairly, and clearly understands that who he is is more important than his circumstances. The black & white episodes are excellent, but I would skip the color ones.

    Fetch (Age 8+)
    Wonderful show on PBS that started last year. It's essentially an adventure-filled game show with a great sense of humor for smart kids. I
    wrote about it last year and the second season is around the corner.

    The Cosby Show
    (10+)
    If I ever rewrite by Top 10 Shows of All-Time, Arrested Development will be replaced by The Cosby Show. I watched it when I was growing up and loved it, and his albums were a huge part of my childhood and now Ben's, but I had no idea how good the show was. A child will definitely enjoy it, but it's really made for parents.

    The show has sparked so many family conversations. It's perfect to watch with children who are on the verge of junior high and high school. There is a lot about dating, friendships, dealing with parents, and maturing in general (physically and emotionally). Cosby used the show to introduce so many cool people and so much cool music to a wider audience. The show had no hesitations about being an example. Like Leave it to Beaver, there are elements that are unrealistic, but what's wrong with a show that inspires rather than settle for the lowest common denominator. There are many subtle aspects to this: the parents are almost reading when they are relaxing, the television is almost never part of family life (ironic, I know), the older generations are treated with enormous respect and celebrated, church is a regular part of their lives, work is highly valued, and romance is a huge part of a loving relationship.

    The parenting lessons are endless and better than most parenting books and seminars. The show makes it abundantly clear that the most important relationship in the house is the one between Cliff and Claire - everything else flows out from there. Their relationship has so many lessons for couples, both in how to respect and value one another, but also how to teach, train and love your children with the understanding that real goal is to prepare them to leave.

    The Wonder Years (12+)
    After searching for The Wonder Years for the past year, we were thrilled to see it start airing on a local channel last week. (Quick aside: apparently, the reason the show is not available on DVD is huge licensing issues - it used so much original music from that period and they don't have the necessary rights to sell it in a new format.) I watched it in high school and college and absolutely loved it. We were so eager to share it with Ben and when we watched the first episode, I realized why. The show starts with 12-year old Kevin preparing for his first day of junior high. Ben will turn 12 and start middle school in August.

    After experiencing family life from the parent's perspective with The Cosby Show, it's the perfect time to see life through a child's eyes. Since The Wonder Years features a struggling family and takes place in the tumultuous 60's and early 70's, there are definitely some challenging story lines that are a little beyond Ben's age. Those are good opportunities for conversations within the comfort of our family.

    I still believe that the less television the better, but if you're looking for something to share with the whole family, one of these might be a good fit. If you have any suggestions, I'd love to hear them.

    Note: This is my first blog post written with Google Docs. So far, I love it! Plenty of room to write, easy access to the HTML, and auto-save.

    March 02, 2007

    Top 10 Songs About Kids

    Some of my favorite songs are songs about kids. There's something very moving when rock stars write sweet songs about their children. I think part of it is I love to find those things that connect very different people and being a parent is one of them, no matter how dissimilar we are.

    So, here are my Top 10 Songs About Kids. The full lyrics are just a click away. I've also created an iTunes iMix where you can sample all of the songs.

    10. Still Fighting It by Ben Folds

    Ben Folds has written one song about his son and another about his daughter. This one is about his boy and even though it's a bit sad, it still talks about a feeling I think every parent has at times. You realize your child is going to be a lot like you and that's not always a good thing.

    You'll try and try and one day you'll fly
    Away from me

    9. Sometimes You Can't Make It On Your Own by U2

    This song is from the other perspective - a son writing about his father.

    Listen to me now
    I need to let you know
    You don’t have to go it alone

    And it’s you when I look in the mirror
    And it’s you when I don’t pick up the phone
    Sometimes you can’t make it on your own

    8. Row Jimmy by Grateful Dead

    Unlike the rest of these songs, most people would not list this one as being about a child. As we know, everyone hears songs differently depending on your life and where you are at the time. For me, though, this song has always had a parent's feel. The music itself is so lovely and the lyrics paint a picture in my mind of a sleepy night on a front porch, sitting next to your boy or girl and talking about the day's adventures (or vee-ventures, as Ben used to call them).

    Julie catch a rabbit by his hair
    Come back step, like to walk on air
    Get back home where you belong
    and don't you run off no more

    7. To Zion by Lauryn Hill

    This is a bit of a cheat, as this is more Lori's song than mine. Nevertheless, the music and words are amazing. I don't know if she's listened to this yet without getting tears in her eyes.

    Now let me pray to keep you from
    The perils that will surely come
    See life for you my prince has just begun
    And I thank you for choosing me
    To come through unto life to be
    A beautiful reflection of his grace
    For I know that a gift so great
    Is only one God could create
    And I'm reminded every time I see your face

    6. Hoodoo Voodoo by Wilco

    Two of the best CDs I own are Mermaid Avenue Volume 1 & 2. On these albums, Wilco and Billy Bragg perform Woody Guthrie songs that were never recorded. In fact, they existed only as lyrics.

    Woody wrote this incredibly fun and completely nonsensical song for his children. Wilco turn it into something that will put a smile on anyone's face.

    Hoodoo voodoo
    Chooka chooky choochoo;
    True blue, how true;
    Kissle me now.

    5. Kite by U2

    Like the other U2 song, this one is about a father and son. It's about that moment at the end of your father's life when you know time is short. You want him to see you for who you are, but you also want to say, "I know that this is not goodbye."

    I'm a man, I'm not a child
    A man who sees
    The shadow behind your eyes

    4. I Will Take You Home by Grateful Dead

    Written and performed by keyboardist Brent Mydland, this song causes me stop whatever I'm doing and listen to it the moment I hear it. Beautiful.

    Ain't no fog that's thick enough to hide you
    Your daddy's gonna be right here beside you
    If your fears should start to get inside you
    I will take you home
    I will take you home
    Gonna carry you back home in my arms
    I will take you home

    3. Billy Breathes by Phish

    One of my absolute favorite songs, sung almost in a whisper. As you listen, you are transported to a quiet car on a long drive, your child asleep in the backseat.

    Silent scenes
    In motion means
    I’ll wake you when we’re there
    Oh sing softly

    Time, it seems
    In broken dreams
    To sleep beside the stair

    2. Pony Boy by Bruce Springsteen

    I used to sing this song to Ben when I was putting him to sleep. I don't remember singing any other songs, just this single, perfect one.

    Ride with me ride with me
    Won't you take a ride with me
    Underneath the starry sky
    My pony boy

    1. Gracie by Ben Folds

    A couple of years later, Ben Folds had a daughter, Gracie, and wrote a wonderfully sweet song about her.

    And you will always have a part of me
    Nobody else is ever gonna see
    Gracie girl

    What are the songs that have meant a lot to you or that you've shared with your children? I'd love to hear them!

    January 24, 2007

    10 Steps to Writing a Better Book

    Writing the book was a very long process filled with surprising twists, frustrating moments, and, periodically, a real rush of accomplishment. There were moments when I was sure I could write down 1,001 things I'd rather be doing and nights when I fell asleep thanking God for this once-in-a-lifetime opportunity

    Now that it's over, of course, many of the struggles are fading from memory and writing a book sounds like the greatest thing in the world. All I have to do to kill this feeling is mention it to Lori and Ben and see the look on their faces! They have much better memories than I do.

    I don't know if or when I'll be blessed to write another book, but just in case, here's a list of what I would do differently the next time around. If you're facing a big writing project, you may find a helpful idea in here somewhere.

    Top 10 Steps to Writing a Better Book

    10. Get more exercise
    I found myself always feeling the pressure of the next deadline and thinking I couldn't afford the time to exercise. Whenever I did, though, the obvious happened - I had more energy and a clearer mind, so I was actually more productive.

    9. Allow time for editing and formatting
    I wrote the book using a text editor, partly so I wouldn't spend hours messing with formatting. However, when it was finally time to turn in the final draft, I faced many, many hours of converting the document to Word and formatting all of the text to meet the publisher's specifications. And once you start this process, you naturally start editing at the same time because you're reading it in a totally different way.

    The next time I would make sure I had at least one full week after I was done writing before it was time to turn in the draft.

    8. Have a regular place to work
    At first, I took advantage of having a laptop and wrote wherever I felt comfortable. I later learned the value of having a primary place the provides a focus and reminds you subconsciously that it's time to work.

    Of course, a change of location now and then is still a good thing. During the last two months, it occurred to me that it might be fun to write at our local library. It wasn't completely free of distraction, but getting out of the house and knowing that my time there was limited helped me focus.

    7. Schedule rewards at each milestone
    I wish I had planned rewards for significant accomplishments during the writing process, instead of focusing on when the book was done. Breaking up the process into smaller victories (such as finishing a chapter or hitting a certain word count) would make the whole experience more fun.

    6. Disable wireless for long stretches
    Having wireless internet access throughout the house, at the library, and seemingly everywhere else means that endless distractions are never more than a click away. I would recommend turning off wireless internet access for a few hours and then rewarding yourself with a quick fix.

    5. Write a small amount each day
    My goal from the beginning was to write 200 words a day, which is a lot less than this post. Even that was often a struggle, though. I always felt a certain pressure to try to get every word perfect - a book is just so permanent. Blog posts are great writing practice, but I don't agonize over each word in the same way.

    When I struggled, I would finally decide to skip a day, then another. Next thing you know, it's Saturday afternoon and you have to write 800+ words just to break even. It's much better to write something, anything, each day and leave the perfecting for later.

    4. Set aside time for book busywork
    I had no idea that there are so many parts to writing a book that have little to do with writing. There are contracts, marketing materials, photos, emails, book design, contributors, permission and release documents, research, interviews, blogging, formatting, and more. Next time, I would choose a day each week to focus on the side projects and take a break from writing. On other days, I would make it a habit to write first, then tackle everything else.

    3. Develop one writing process and stick with it
    I'm sure this was because it was my first time, but I invested a lot of energy into experimenting with different writing approaches and then transitioning from one to the other. I tried just about everything - outliner software, text editors, Word, and Writeboard. I created one complete file containing the entire book and then saved every chapter individually. I tracked my progress in a least three three different ways.

    I think I've found the best system that works for me - a combination of a text editor (TextWrangler) and Backpack. iTunes was a big help in the end as well.

    2. Print it out
    I doubt many people need to be reminded to do this, but I actually didn't print out and edit any of the pages until the very end. I did all the writing and editing on the computer. Of course, when I did finally print it out, it was a revelation. I was able to see the text in a totally different way and find mistakes and areas for improvement much more easily.

    The editing part was actually fun, so I wished I had printed out each chapter as it was finished and made editing part of the ongoing process.

    1. Schedule regular getaways to write
    After the first month of writing, Lori suggested that I pick a weekend and go stay in a hotel for a night or two to write. I was a bad combination of naive, arrogant and cheap because I consistently resisted that suggestion until the deadline was just one month away. I finally went to a local hotel and spent two days and nights just writing. It was easily the most enjoyable and productive 48 hours of the entire experience.

    Writing at home during evenings and weekends is a huge challenge. You are surrounded by people you'd like to spend time with, things you wish you could do, and things that need to done. It's a formula for frustration.

    Getting away gives you permission to be selfish with your time and gives your family permission to really enjoy the weekend without having to make sure the movie isn't too loud. You come home refreshed and with a lot of momentum heading into the week. Plus, you get to feel like one of those cool writers who goes off to a cabin or secluded resort to write. It's the best investment you can make.

    After all, writing is a wonderful privilege that should be thoroughly enjoyed and appreciated.

    February 23, 2006

    10 Things I can't wait to do when I finish the book

    I love writing a book. I really, really do.

    Well, mostly.

    I have no problem admitting that it's hard. I struggle, get tired, and run out of things to write.  Then ideas start flowing, Lori and Ben offer their enthusiastic and sweet help, and I read a cool blog post that reminds of the impact this book could have.

    This isn't a post about writing a book, but I'll throw in three things I've learned. First, writing a book in your spare time without any changes in your professional life takes a huge amount of effort and may be an indication of mental imbalance. Those of you who do it with such speed and focus have my complete admiration. Second, ubiquitous wireless internet access is a very bad thing if you have any interest in focusing on what you're doing. Third, writing blog posts is good, but incomplete, preparation for writing a book. Blogging encourages short to medium-length, self-contained, and somewhat simplified thoughts. It's hard to build a book out of that.

    The book has been an incredible privilege and challenge, but with the deadline just 10 weeks away, I can start imagining what it will be like to have a life after 8pm and on the weekends (a mid-30's married life to be exact). Here's what I think about while I'm going to sleep.

    10 Things I can't wait to do when I finish the book

    10. Learn new skills

    This is actually for work, but I really enjoy learning server and database command line management and it's been killing me to not have more time to invest in it.

    9. Watch more movies with Lori

    It's easy to take this one for granted, but I can't remember the last time I watched a movie without that moment when it hits me that I should be doing something else.

    8. Go on vacation

    Not a vacation from one kind of work to do another kind of work, but a real vacation.

    7. Sleep more

    It will be fun to go to bed whenever it sounds like a good idea. Sometimes it feels like I have homework every night.

    6. Celebrate

    Once I'm convinced that a lawyer from Jossey-Bass isn't going to show up and ask for their money back, I'm sure I'll have fun with some of it. And I know we'll have a nice celebration, too.

    5. Read the Wall Street Journal every day

    I subscribed in a fit of vacation-induced enthusiasm, but have since had to suspend my subscription until the book is finished. I loved it for those brief few weeks. Lori and I even got to share the Saturday edition over coffee like Paul and Jamie. I can't wait to start again.

    4. Blog more

    Writing a blog post is so much more fun now. There's no pressure and you get immediate feedback. I've had an endless number of ideas about things to write about it, but they've had to wait.

    3. Watch every moment of the World Cup

    I love national soccer! Lori, Ben, and I actually went to the recent U.S. National Team match in Frisco. It was our chance to prove that we still have some midwestern blood in us as we were forced to sit outside for 2 hours with the temperature hovering around 30 degrees. We loved it (yes, even Lori). Feel the cold.

    The World Cup will dominate the month of June in the Bailey house (well, that and our 14th Anniversary).

    2. Read books

    I haven't read a book since I started writing one and miss it terribly.

    1. Be a better dad

    Work. Book. Work. Book. Work. I think that's all Ben has heard about for the past seven months. Lori and I have actually done quite well through this whole process - she's an incredible woman,  her job has been intense as well so we've had that to share, she's been a huge help with the actual writing, and she doesn't go to bed at 9:00.

    Ben, on the other hand, gets me during the few short hours between day job and night job - not exactly when I'm at the top of my game! I look forward to being with him beyond just sharing a fun show or movie. He's so much fun to be around.

    It's going to be an exciting 10 weeks...followed by an incredible summer (really Ben, I promise)!

    January 30, 2006

    If I could only read 10 blogs

    I was going through Top 10 List withdrawal and so I thought of a little experiment. What if I could only subscribe to 10 blogs? Which ones would I choose? What are the 10 blogs I simply can't do without? I thought I'd post my list and then add it to the sidebar for everyone to enjoy.

    And then a funny thing happened. I only came up with 8. Now, I read a lot of great blogs, but when forced to choose blogs than I check even if all I have is a web browser, blogs that I truly consider essential, I fell short.

    So, that's where you can help. What blogs do you find it hard to go without? Which ones do you check even when you're on vacation? What's the best blog I'm not reading?


    The Top 10 8 Blogs I Can't Do Without

    8. Hotline on Call

    All politics, all the time, by the editors of National Journal.

    7. TechCrunch > Michael Arrington

    Reviews of the latest Web 2.0 software, along with stories on the companies and people who make them.

    6. Evotional > Mark Batterson

    Washington D.C. pastor who is joyfully pushing the local church into blogs, theatres, podcasts, and coffee houses. 

    5. Creating Passionate Users > Kathy Sierra

    What do people want and how do you give it to them?

    4. Amy Loves Books

    I thank God for Amy everytime I read her blog. She writes about the things you think about while you're going to sleep and talk about over coffee on a Sunday morning.

    3. Signal vs. Noise > 37signals

    How to build software.

    2. Scobleizer > Robert Scoble

    You might think it's about technology, but it's really a celebration of people who give everything they have to something they love.

    1. Scripting News > Dave Winer

    The first blog I ever read and six years later, it is still my favorite.

    November 02, 2005

    Bailey, party of twelve

    My son Ben is working on a great school project. He has to choose 12 people for his ideal get together. They can be alive or dead or even characters from fiction. So far, Thomas Jefferson, Harry Potter, Ben Franklin, Jesus, and Obi-Wan Kenobi have made the list.

    We had so much fun talking about this over dinner, I couldn't resist putting together a list of my own. I decided to stick with living people to help narrow the field.

    My Dream Guest List

    Steve Jobs - design, drive for perfection, innovation

    John McCain - might as well get on the 2008 bus now

    Bono - music, politics, spirituality

    Ed Young - leadership, relentless focus on the vision

    Richard Rorty - the one public philosopher I still read

    Nick Nornby - my favorite fiction writer

    Peggy Noonan - one of my two favorite political writers

    William Kristol - my other favorite political writer

    Robert Scoble - if for no other reason than to read about the whole thing on his blog the next morning!

    Aaron Sorkin - my favorite screenwriter

    Tim Russert - fairness, passion for politics, family values in the best sense

    The final spot is reserved for my son - once I found out I made his list, that was a given!

    Now, let's hear some of your names...

    September 25, 2005

    10 Favorite TV Shows of All-Time

    Tonight I get to celebrate my birthday with the season premier of my favorite show. This sounds like a great opportunity for a list!

    Top 10 Favorite TV Shows of All-Time

    10. Twin Peaks

    Just two short seasons, but what a bizarre and captivating time it was.

    9. Leave it to Beaver

    I watched this a lot when I was young, but I've rediscovered it with Lori and Ben. This show is so much better than most people give it credit for. The writing and acting are both very high quality. Of course, the main reason Leave it to Beaver is mentioned anymore is in mocking criticism of an idyllic past that supposedly never existed. First, I would argue that the show is more honest and genuine that you would expect. Second, what is wrong with a show that sets a higher standard, instead of racing to the lowest common denominator?

    8. M*A*S*H

    The first show I shared with my whole family and the first one that I still loved as a grew older. If you ever wonder where my humor comes from, I learned at the feet of the great Hawkeye Pierce.

    7. Meet the Press

    This doesn't quite fit, but I have to include it since I've been watching it without fail for a very long time. Definitely the best political show out there. I could admit that I love Road to the White House too, but then my secret life as a political geek would be revealed.

    6. The Wonder Years

    Just incredibly well done, with first-class honesty and respect about what it means to grow up.

    5. Arrested Development

    One of the most hilarious, inventive shows I have ever watched. There is more creativity in 10 minutes than some shows pack into a season. If it can stay at this level for a few more years, it will definitely move up. I can watch these over and over again.

    Check out the website by the way. Very well done and includes a great In Case You Missed It section.

    4. Mad About You

    The cheapest marriage counseling you'll ever find. Consistently clever, original, and yes, heartfelt. The supporting characters become a bit much after awhile, but Paul and Jamie will always be my favorite TV couple.

    I kissed Doug Berkus. Quite a moment.

    3. Sports Night

    Three nearly perfect seasons, written by Aaron Sorkin. If you missed it the first time, please rent or buy the DVD's. The show is incredible.

    What other show would have the nerve to do almost an entire season about the uncertainty of what was going to happen to the show, while they were uncertain about what would happen to the show?

    2. Seinfeld

    Almost every day brings an opportunity to weave a line from Seinfeld into a situation. My current favorite is Why don't you just tell me what movie you'd like to see?

    I certainly have never seen a show be so consistently funny for so long, and it such unique ways.

    1. The West Wing

    I know this is my favorite show because I can start watching any episode from any year and be immediately captivated. Of course, I wish Aaron Sorkin was still involved, but they've done a better job than I would have imagined possible.

    The writing continues to be first-rate, the acting is fantastic, and despite a few military dramas and a kidnapping, the show has stayed amazingly consistent. It's a show about politics and the White House. It appeals to the political romantic in me. If politics isn't a noble cause, I'm sure glad it is for one hour a week.

    Now let's hear your favorites!

    September 13, 2005

    10 Favorite Albums of All-Time

    I already know this was a bad idea. The other day I found myself saying to a friend that the CD we were listening to was one of my favorite albums. Then, I remembered that I had said that just a few days earlier about a different CD. This is a great opportunity to create a Top 10 List, I foolishly thought to myself. It will be fun!

    Wrong. How in the world do you reduce hundreds of albums and years of experiences into just 10 choices? You don't, at least not very successfully. The list below doesn't even include a single album by the Grateful Dead, Bob Dylan, or Phish, and only one from Elvis Costello and U2. And yet, I continue! I am smart enough to know one thing though, these are not the 10 Best Albums of All-Time. My collection is too small and my exposure too limited to claim that.

    These are the albums that I love every single time I listen to them. I hope you enjoy the list, including links to iTunes. Be sure to post your favorites!

    Top 10 Favorite Albums of All-Time

    10. Chris Isaac, San Francisco Days

    I'm always amazed at how much I love this album. It's just so perfectly sweet and enjoyable. I think it has to do with the fact that I used to listen to it while putting Ben to sleep.

    9. Moby, Play

    I think I listened to this at least once a week for about two years. So much good stuff.

    8. Paul Simon, Graceland

    A great novel set to music. He says more in a verse that most people manage in a hundred pages.

    7. Ben Folds Five, Whatever and Ever Amen

    From beginning to end, just a fantastic record, with an incredible range of emotion, including a healthy dose of bitterness and sarcasm.

    6. Elvis Costello, Imperial Bedroom

    The hardest part was choosing which album, but you can't go wrong with Imperial Bedrooom.

    5. The Who, Who's Next

    It feels like you're listening to a greatest hits album. Just perfect rock n' roll.

    4. The Clash, London Calling

    Punk never sounded so good, in music or lyrics.

    3. U2, All That You Can't Leave Behind

    This is when I knew this was a fool's errand. I could do a Top 10 list made up entirely of U2 albums. Everybody has one band that feels like they're part of your soul - that's U2 for me.

    2. The Who, Quadrophenia

    This has always been my favorite Who album, from the first time I heard it when I was 15. Nobody has better captured the conflicted emotions of a young man.

    1. Leonard Cohen, The Future

    So much of music is written for kids about being a kid, and I'm thankful for that. But there's something so powerful about this music and the lyrics that go with it. The songs are written and performed by an adult for adults. The songs are about ideas, politics, spirituality, and love that takes longer than four minutes to figure out. I get something new out of it every time.

    July 18, 2005

    10 Things I Learned While I Wasn't Blogging

    10. Sleep is good

    9. Books are often more rewarding than blogs

    8. The number of DVD's worth seeing is rapidly approaching zero

    7. I think in Top 10 Lists even when I'm not blogging

    6. The Economist is an outstanding magazine

    5. Stats don't matter

    4. There is a very cool Dashboard Widget for Backpack

    3. Ben can beat me in chess

    2. Readers stay - if you want to take a break, go ahead, they'll be there when you return

    1. My wife is very attractive!

    June 19, 2005

    10 Best Books with Ben

    One of the many privileges I have as a father is reading with Ben. We started reading chapter books together when he was three and despite growing into a voracious reader, he still lets me read to him at nearly 10. At every moment, Ben is in the middle of three books - one alone, one with Lori, and one with me. We've now read over 75 chapter books together (yes, we're list people) and I thought today would be the perfect day to post my favorites. I will be forced to cheat a bit by counting a few series only once.

    Top 10 Best Books with Ben

    10. The Number Devil - An incredibly original and creative mathematical adventure by Hans Magnus Enzensberger. (Age 9+)

    9. The Mouse and the Motorcycle - One of our very first books, and a perfect book for a young boy, by Beverly Cleary. (Age 4+)

    8. Mrs. Frisby and the Rats of Nimh - A clever book where engineers are the heroes, by Robert O'Brien. (Age 6+)

    7. Stuart Little - Beautifully written by E.B. White. (Age 5+)

    6. The Chronicles of Narnia - The classic series by C.S. Lewis. (Age 7+)

    5. The Great Brain - Seven books by John D. Fitzgerald that were my favorite growing up. (Age 6+)

    4. Summerland - A fantastic book about baseball, aliens, and saving the universe by Michael Chabon. (Age 8+)

    3. Shiloh - Three books about a boy and his dog, by Phyllis Reynolds Naylor. (Age 7+)

    2. The Cat Pack - Four books about the adventures of two cats, by Phyllis Reynolds Naylor. (Age 4+)

    1. Rascal - One of my favorite books of all-time, by Sterling North. We now read this together as a family as part of our Christmas traditions. (Age 7+)

    June 05, 2005

    10 Things I Wish You Didn't Know About Me

    10. I can't find anything to order at Starbucks

    9. I listened to a podcast last night...while ironing a duvet

    8. I wanted to be Alex P. Keaton when I grew up

    7. If I cook, grilled cheese or french toast is usually involved

    6. Home Sweet Home is one of my all-time favorite songs

    5. I watched more than an appropriate amount of the Smurfs growing up

    4. One time after my parents got divorced, my dad wanted to take me out to eat. I asked if I could just have the money instead.

    3. I love Neil Diamond

    2.  Due to my extreme secrecy, my wife thinks I'm a spy

    1. I voted for Ross Perot in 1992

    May 18, 2005

    10 Things Everyone Thinks They Can Do

    I am endlessly fascinated by the average person's belief in his or her own abilities. Most of us are filled with doubt about who we are and why we are here. Most of us, in fact, question our success at the very responsibilities we carry out everyday - parenting, career, and relationships.

    But that doesn't stop us from being 100% sure we can accomplish great things, given the opportunity. Despite little experience or inherent talent, we bravely assert our competency. The telling example is when you're watching a profile of someone on television, or skimming the classifieds, and you say, "I could do that if I wanted."

    And the person sitting next to you says, "No, really, you couldn't."

    Top 10 Things Everyone Thinks They Can Do

    10. Write song lyrics

    She's got a smile that it seems to me
    Reminds me of childhood memories

    How hard can it be?

    9. Design a website

    Every person who works on the web has received detailed design instruction from someone without a great deal of web experience. Usually the phrase Comic Sans is involved.

    8. Write a children's book

    The fact that celebrities manage to do this on a regular basis causes much of the confusion.

    7. Write movie reviews

    We all enjoy movies. We all enjoy talking about movies afterword. How difficult can it be to write your opinion down on a piece of paper?

    6. Be a comedian

    I think deep down, we all think we're funny. And I think most of us believe that if we were able to spend our entire day working at it, we could be really funny.

    Some of us would never want to be onstage, though. We just imagine being a writer for SNL or a late-night talk show instead.

    5. Design a church service

    Everyone? Maybe not, but everyone who has ever been to church has left thinking, "I would've used a better opening story. I didn't like that song. The drama was too long. Why does it have to be so cold?"

    4. Work in sports

    Mostly a guy thing, but in addition to the ones who were just an injury or lucky break away from stardom, there are those who think they would make a terrific broadcaster, coach, or sportswriter.

    3. Write Top 10 lists

    Want proof? Look here, here, and here.

    2. Write a book

    Fiction or non-fiction, I think most people think they have at least one book in them, just waiting for the right opportunity. And since very few of us know anyone who has actually written a book, the only examples we have to work with are found on television or in the movies. I must say, it looks like writing is a wonderful way to live.

    1. Name anything

    It can be a child, book, website, product, or band, but I've never met someone who would pass up a chance to name something. And once you offer your opinion, any other choice is clearly a mistake. I still think I had a better name for my sister's own child!

    Some of these things aren't very hard to do, they're just hard to do well. Not only am I guilty of just about all of these conceits, I actually admire the seemingly ingrained American confidence that anything is possible.

    But that doesn't stop it from being funny. Really, really funny.

    Man, I have got to send this one to Letterman.

    February 20, 2005

    10 Titles for a Christian Blogging Book

    Some terrific, talented people are writing books on blogging, especially the use of blogs in the corporate world - Robert Scoble together with Shel Israel and Jeremy Wright, to name a few. As I mentioned previously, the Christian blogosphere has already created private-label blogrolls and even conferences. So, I am confident that before you know it, there will be Christian blogging books!

    Before the first contract is signed, let's go ahead and document the best possible titles.

    Top 10 Titles for a Christian Blogging Book

    10. Come, I Will Make You Bloggers of Men
    9. The Emergent Blog
    8. The Blog Testament
    7. The 10 Commandments of Blogging
    6. Onward Christian Bloggers
    5. Sunday Blogging Sunday
    4. Mathew, Mark, Luke . . . Scoble? Finding your next evangelist online!
    3. The Purpose Driven Blog
    2. I Could Blog of Your Love Forever

    And the #1 Christian Blogging Book Title

    1. What Would Jesus Blog?

    October 10, 2004

    10 Signs That I'm No Longer Young

    Rather than have my advancing age surprise me, I like to stare it in the face as often as possible.  Having recently turned 34 (enviously young to some of you, uncomfortably old to others) I'm already thinking ahead to next year, when I'll be 35 and Ben will be 10. The simple fact is that time goes by at a amazing rate. My philosophy is, Why not just take a deep breath, let it sink in, and then have fun with it!

    Top 10 Signs That I'm No Longer Young

    10. I had been listening to U2 for three years when The Joshua Tree was released and they became the biggest rock band in the world. That was 17 years ago. [Bonus item: Born in the U.S.A. was released 20 years ago.]

    9. A new version of The Bad News Bears is being developed. It will be released near the 30th anniversary of the original.

    8. The original iMac was released over six years ago.

    7. There are people I've known since the day they were born, who have now had children. I work with people who were born when I was 10 years old.

    6. I remember watching the Carter-Reagan debate as a young boy. That was 24 years ago.

    5. When an announcer says an athlete is no longer in his prime, he's always the same age or younger than me.

    4. When I was a freshmen in college, I took a typewriter to school with me, and no one on my floor had a computer in their room.

    3.My favorite athletes when I was growing up (Alan Trammel, Kirk Gibson, Isaiah Thomas, John McEnroe) are now managers, general managers, and talk show hosts.

    2. Children are usually part of your home for their first 18 years. My son Ben has already reached the half-way point.

    1. Mary-Louise Parker stars in a movie, Saved where she plays the mother of a teenager.

    August 06, 2004

    10 Really Bad Rock Band Break-up Puns

    Can you find your favorite group below?

    10. There will be no more tears...and no more fear...I'm leaving the band.

    9. At least wait til' Wednesday!

    8. I'm done talking...this head is out of here

    7. I'm sorry, but this Leopard has changed his spots

    6. Sorry brothers, but we're just way too out of sync

    5. It's just not nirvana for me anymore...it's barely even alright

    4. Who is going to want to see 9,999 maniacs?

    3. This isn't about The Who, it's about the why

    2. Without U, there is no U2

    And the #1 Really Bad Rock Band Breakup Pun is ...

    1. I'm afraid I'm just not carved out to be a Pumpkin